Dear friends, brothers and sisters, Today we were at the hospital. My wife got a biopsy done of her bone and a bone marrow extract too. It was really painful for her. Doctor said to me, ”its quite a small room here, things get heated and people are known to faint as there does be blood everywhere and you can see some of it”. I looked at Audrey and in my weakness said ”maybe I should wait outside?”. Audrey said in a very humorous yet firm tone of voice, ”Oh no, you should stay”. With that I said I would remain here against all odds and if I faint who cares anyway, as long as Audrey has the support she needs.
We laughed about it afterwards but during the surgery, Audrey squeezed my hand for a lengthy period of time, and then after my left hand went white I offered her my right hand and said ”here, you have squeezed the life out of that one, time to give it a rest and give this ( my right hand ) a go. She was laughing and screaming at the same time when I said that but it kept her spirits up.
After this we went over for an Ultrasound, then back to the Oncology unit to get set up for a CT scan and then it was another walk back over to the CT department. Before that long walk the doctor came in and informed us that due to the Ultrasound they found that the liver was enlarged and the spleen also. Upon the liver they discovered a spot. The Doctor explained that this information is very fresh as they are getting it quite quick but they think that further examination could conclude that this is a result of the Hodgkins cancer and that is the culprit.
This was a shock to the system for Audrey and myself too because this meant either it is a stage III or IV Category A. This means it is the last stages of the cancer and the ”A” means she is not having night sweats or any other symptoms like that. Very worrying, but we are assured if we move quickly it can be dealt with so we start it all on Thursday.
We had a long four hours at the hospital. Having come home my Mother and Father took our son Christian for a while to give us some time to let it all sink in. My wife decided to take some time alone to lie down and have a sleep. It was then that I was going through my feed on facebook and noticed an update from Medjugorje TV on Ivan having an apparition in Dublin at 6pm. They explained that if we wanted to attend we would need to go today. I looked at my watch and noticed it was 3pm and that I needed to go now and really wanted to take my Wife. But we are an hour north of Dublin so how could we get there? I don’t drive. My wife can’t drive there because she is a learner driver and very unwell. My father was too tired for the journey. I didn’t know what to do. but I sent them an e-mail asking where it was happening.
An hour later I get a call from Denmark and a man told me it is happening in Xaviers Church on upper Dorset Street in Dublin. I said ok and that I will get there as a matter of urgency somehow. I knew this would be good for Audrey so I shot into the room and said ”come on lets go”. She replied ”where?” I explained where we are going and she got excited and was all very well and fit to go. But how do we get there? I called everyone and they called back telling me not to go, and the more they told me not to go the more I knew we were meant to go.
So I said ”we will get the train”. So off we went to get the train. We would arrive 20 minutes late but we were ten minutes early for the apparition itself so we did not miss that. Having arrived there I knew the place would be packed as it was indeed full to the brim. Sooooooo. I walked up the Isle and we stood by a pillar. I was very worried. My wifes back was hurting and there were no seats. I had my eye on the slab of tiles that looked like the only comfortable route to take by the altar. So here we are, my pregnant wife and I, confused and tired when a man pops up from his seat all annoyed at us and shouted in the thickest and most purest Dublin Accent you can imagine, ”Will ye get out of the way, your blocking everyones view,”. I replied ”but where will we go?”’ in a very harsh tone he said ”I don’t know but you can’t stay here, move away from here and go whereever, because your blocking our view”. It was at this moment that I needed to take a deep breath, and remind myself that the man simply is not aware of our situation, because I must admit a sudden anger arose in me and the temptation to give him a good telling off was boiling inside me, but I kept my cool and I said ”Ok ok”.
So in my confusion I led my 7 month pregnant, cancer stricken wife towards the altar thinking ”Our Lady will do something here I just hope she will” and then all of a sudden these men in suits and ties came up and said ”We have a seat here for you”. We ended up getting the best seat in the house up on the altar front row woohoo ( remind you of a Gospel Passage anyone? ). So that was that, we had a lovely experience, the Mass the Homily and it really put a fire into my wife. Whatever we got from Our Lady we are truly thankful for. My wife has been begging to go to Medjugorje now for many years but we could never get there. This is the closest I could ever bring her and wow is she so happy. So that’s all that matters.
I love her so much so please do keep her in your prayers. I am in tears, all I know is that we had an hour to get there and I got her there, or rather Our Lady brought us there.